[Please complete no later than April 30, 2003]

1. To what extent do you think your sexuality has been influenced by being trans or being the partner of a trans person?

Being trans or being partnered with a trans person has had no affect on my sexuality
Being trans or being partnered with a trans person has somewhat shaped my sexuality
Being trans or being partnered with a trans person has completely shaped my sexuality
Comments:

2. What is your current partner status (check all that apply)

celibate
single and happy about not being partnered
single and looking to date
dating
casual and/or anonymous interactions
committed relationship(s)
long term relationship(s)
legally married
other

3. People can engage in a wide variety of sexual activities with a partner. Please indicate whether you and your partner(s) engage in any of the following, and what names you use for the activities:

A. Engage in oral sex on the trans person:
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

B. Penetrate the trans person’s vagina with finger(s):
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

C . Penetrate the trans person’s vagina with a penis:
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

D. Penetrate the trans person’s vagina with a dildo or other implement:
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

E. Penetrate the trans person anally (by any method):
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

F. Suck or play with the trans person’s nipples:
Yes No
I/we call this activity:

G. If any of the above activities are off-limits, can you say which and comment on why?

H. Is there a difference in the language you use for various sexual behaviors based on the gender/identity of the people involved? For example, an FTM may choose the phrase "blow job" for receptive oral sex, while his female partner may prefer "going down on". If there is a difference in language, please describe the other term/s you use:

4. People use different terms for body parts. What terms do you/your partner/s use for these parts of the trans-body? (check all that apply and add more).

A. chest area
chest
pecs
breasts
tits
nipples
I/we don’t refer to it
other

B. front/genital area
cock
dick
clit
penis
rod
I/we don’t refer to it
other

C. front hole/vagina
vagina
cunt
pussy
boyhole
cockpit
front hole
bonus hole
I/we don’t refer to it
other

5. Are there parts of your/your partner’s trans-body that are off limits or no touch zones? (check all that are off-limits)

no body part is off-limits
chest/breasts
nipples
vagina/front hole
clit/cock/..
anus/asshole
other
comments:

6. Do you/your partner/s usually or always (please don’t count occasional use) wear clothing and/or accessories to engage in sexual activity (check all that apply)?
Yes, I/my partner wears a shirt
Yes, I/my partner wears a chest binder
Yes, I/my partner wears underwear and/or pants
Yes, I/my partner wears a dildo/prosthesis
Yes, I/my partner wears (specify):

No, I am/my partner is typically naked
Comments:

7. Has being trans affected your or your partner/s’ libido? (check all that apply)
Yes, it’s increased it
I/we attribute this increase to...
Use of hormones
Becoming more comfortable with my/hir body
Having less shame about my/hir body
Other reason:

Yes, it’s decreased it
I/we attribute this decrease to...
Use of hormones
Disappointment/shame about my/hir body
Unwillingness to expose my/hir body to another
Other reason:

No, there’s been no change

Other

Comments:

8. Has your and/or your partner’s sexual orientation changed over time? If so, to what do you attribute this change? (check all that apply)

Me		My Partner
	No, orientation has not changed
	I don't know
	Yes, it's changed because of:
	Hormone use
	Becoming more comfortable in body
	Curiosity about other gender's body/sexuality
	Finally discovered my/hir true orientation
	changed sexual orientation label to honor/acknowledge partner's gender
	Erotic attractions expanded as I/sie adjusted to partner's gender
	Politically wanted/needed to be seen as (specify):
	Other (specify):

9. What orientation(s) best describe how you and/or your partner identified in the past, and now in the present? (check all that apply)

Me				My Partner
past		present		past		present
			heterosexual
			bisexual
			gay
			lesbian
			queer
			pansexual
			pomosexual
			asexual
			other:
			other:

10. If there is a difference between you or your partner’s erotic attractions and the sexual orientation identity you/your partner claims publicly, please explain:

11. If/when you begin a new relationship, at what point do you discuss gender identity and/or trans status/history? (check all that apply)

Not applicable
Never
I don’t set up a date until the person knows
First date
Only at the point when we might become sexually involved
When we are in bed
Other

12. Has discussing gender identity and/or trans status/history with a partner altered the course of the relationship? (If you’ve had multiple experiences, please specify in the comments section.)

Not applicable
No, it didn’t change anything
Yes, it increased the attraction/passion/interest
Yes, the other person was "offended" or no longer interested in a relationship
Other
Comments:

13. What role/s does negotiation play in your relationship(s)? (check all that apply)

Not applicable
I don't negotiate
I negotiate for BDSM play
I negotiate around safer sex
I initiate negotiation
I let my partner initiate negotiation
I do whatever my partner wants
I have no clue what you are referring to
Other
Comments:

14. What role does safer sex play in your life?

Not applicable (celibate or not in a relationship right now)
I do not practice safer sex
I am fluid-bonded with one or more of my partners
I practice safer sex with some partners and not with others
I practice safer sex in all sexual interactions
Other
Comments:

15. What is your relationship to/involvement in BDSM?

Not my style
I'm open to exploration
I like a bit of BDSM in my sex life
BDSM is a significant part of my sexuality
I live 24/7 in a BDSM life/relationship
Other
Comments:

16. If BDSM is or has been part of your life, how has it influenced you and/or your relationship to gender?

Not applicable
It has had no affect on me one way or the other

Yes, it has influenced my relationship to gender. Through BDSM I’ve: (please check all that apply)

Explored gender through Daddy/boy or other roles
Become more sex positive
Learned to accept my body
Found that BDSM enforced gender roles
Found that the BDSM community welcomed gender exploration
Been challenged by “only” and/or gendered play spaces
Other (specify):

Comments:

17. Which toys or tools part of your sexual experience(s)? (check all that apply)

I/we don’t use toys or tools
dildos
buttplugs
strap-ons
binder or clothes to cover chest
sponge or other device to conceal/trap "vaginal" fluid
BDSM toys (any)
Other (specify):

18. If you use any of the above toys or tools as part of your sex life…

I/we don’t use toys or tools
Getting it ready/in place is a shared erotic experience between me and my partner(s)
Getting it ready/in place is done alone and in private
Other (specify):

19. How is trans+ness part of your life? (check all that apply)

I am/was trans+
I am partnered with a trans+ person
Other

20. If you are or were trans+, please designate your gender vector (check all that apply)

FTM+
MTF+
butch
femme
androgynous
genderqueer
intersexed
other
I am not/have not been trans

21. If you are partnered with a trans+ person, please designate your gender (check all that apply)

male
female
FTM+
MTF+
butch
femme
androgynous
genderqueer
intersexed
other

22. What else would you like to tell us about how your sexuality interacts with a trans+ history/identity?

 

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