December 4, 2010

Building families

Male pregnancy, surrogacy, adoption, fostering, mentoring…there are many, many ways to bring children and young people into our lives.  Come meet some of the local resources who can help you if you are thinking about adding little (or not so little!) ones to your life.  (Discussion may also include 4-legged, furry, and other non-human inclusions to create family.)

November 6, 2010

The patchwork puzzle: interconnected identities

One of the common things that others do to trans people is reduce us to that one characteristic; let’s make sure we don’t do that to ourselves!  In this interactive, innovative meeting we’ll talk about and celebrate other aspects of our identities.  Bring your whole selves!

October 2, 2010

Come out, come out, wherever you are!

October 11 is National Coming Out Day.  Come share your Coming Out stories – the good, the bad, and the ugly.  If you’re thinking of coming out somewhere new, let us help you plan!  (Or even role-play!)  At this meeting we’ll also discuss the many good reasons some of us don’t disclose. All strategies and experiences are welcome!

September 4, 2010

Suicide stigma stinks: don’t erase your future

The transgender community unfortunately has one of the highest rates of suicide, suicide attempts, and suicidal thoughts of any population.  At this important meeting we’ll talk practicalities: what are the techniques people use to get through rough spots?  How can we help each other hang on when the going gets tough?

August 7, 2010

Love the one you’re with

Is the body you live in one that you find hard to love? This meeting will focus on many angles of how we can love the one we’re with all the time – ourselves! Perhaps we struggle because we cannot afford hormones or surgery and feel uncomfortable with our bodily configuration? Maybe it’s more about disability? Possibly about size? There are hundreds of reasons why people feel uncomfortable in their bodies – join us to hear how people learn to find peace in the body they have.

July 3, 2010

Share-a-thon

Share-a-thon – resources. Bring a resource or idea to share. Maybe you know of a great hang out that is trans-friendly. Do you have a favorite website that has brought you invaluable information? Have you found a perfect solution for binding in the summer (without suffering from heat exhaustion)? Perhaps you have a book that has changed your life. The format of this meeting will be to have a round robin-style interaction, where everyone can share.   

June 5, 2010

Trans history (w/ Brice Smith) & Trivia game

Summer’s the time to play, and tonight we’ll play with our history!  Brice Smith will teach us about an “early” Milwaukee contribution to the national transgender movement, FTM International founder Lou Sullivan.  Then we’ll see how much we know – and can learn – about the rest of our transgender history by playing a unique, FORGE-generated transgender history trivia game.

May 1, 2010

Sexing it up (w/ Laura Stuart from Tool Shed)

The meeting will launch with guest presenter Laura Stuart from the Tool Shed. Laura will share information about sex toys, passing devices and other products that make sex more fun and living day-to-day a bit easier. Following her presentation, we’ll discuss sexuality: How do we negotiate gender dysphoria and sensuality? How do we navigate our bodies and those we love? What kinds of sexual activities are or aren’t people engaging in – and how has that changed over time? (e.g. penetration? packing/strapping?) Is sex comfortable – emotionally or physically? Does it change if we transition?
  

April 3, 2010

Spirituality – Ritual (Guest: Wendy Woodruff)

Pastor Wendy Woodruff will guide us through an inclusive, ecumenical journey that will help us feel better connected to ourselves, each other, and All That Is.…… (Journey to Self…)

March 6, 2010

Is that legal? (w/ Laura Sette)

Guest speaker attorney Laura Sette will cover a wide range of legal topics, including: what are our rights; how to change name and/or gender markers through the courts; changing driver’s license name/gender; modifying birth certificates; and if/how the Real ID Act may impact transgender people.  In addition to the common “how to” questions, Laura will discuss how to deal with the police, addressing some questions related to harassment and challenges caused by the police.

February 6, 2010

Gender outside the box

Gender doesn't have to be contained within one of two boxes. Those of us who are part of the trans community, or who are connected with trans people already know this. However, sometimes it's hard for us to remember that there are an infinite number of ways to "do" gender, to be engendered, to live in a two-gendered world. Not all of us can or want to fit into a binary gender system. Discussion will range from the personal to political - how we make choices about our identity, how we live our day to day lives. Discussion may include how we can celebrate the diversity of gender and support each other in developing unique gender identities that feel right to each of us. This discussion is not solely about trans people either! How does anyone (trans and non-trans) create and live their gender (or lack of gender)?

January 2, 2010

Film: Kinky Boots

December 5, 2009

Open Mic Night

November 7, 2009

Touching Moments: Massage Techniques

October 3, 2009

SM and Sensations: Spicing It Up

September 18, 2009 (Friday)

Therapist Meet ‘n’ Greet

Have you wanted to be able to learn more about a therapist before stepping through their door?  Would you like the opportunity to ask questions of multiple therapists – their approach, philosophy, adherence to the Standards of Care, or any number of other issues?  Maybe you are just curious to meet some of the key therapists everyone in our community is talking about – even if you aren’t looking for a therapist.

Join FORGE and a panel of therapists from Milwaukee, Madison, and Chicago for an evening of questions, exploration, answers, and insight.

Confirmed therapists include:

• Nyle Biondi
• Jim Cosenza
• Lynn Edwards
• Dianne Frances 
• Laura Grimes
• Kara Luening

Each therapist will make a brief introductory comment about their practice.  Following introductions, FORGE facilitators will have a set of moderated questions for the panel, giving time for each therapist to respond.  After gathering some initial information through introductions and FORGE-asked questions, attendees will have plenty of time to ask their own questions – which can be anonymous (via writing) or oral. 

Printable Flyer

Therapist Panelists' bios (or view online)

September 5, 2009

Multiple Identities, Whole Selves

We all live with multiple identities--gender and race, religion and ability-- we are full and complex people. How do we experience our varied positions, and how can we support one another as we travel different paths?

August 1, 2009

Against a Trans Narrative
(a Jules Rosskam film)

“Trans filmmaker Jules Rosskam's against a trans narrative is a provocative and personal experimental documentary investigating dominant constructions of trans-masculine identity, gender, and the nature of community.

By sensitively framing the film through his own personal journey within the trans-masculine community, Rosskam creates an electric and original investigation into gender politics and social self-identity.

Blending fiction, nonfiction, and experimental film genres, against a trans narrative employs a gender-busting combination of intimate diary footage, stylized dramatic scenes, spoken word performance, faux audition tapes, and roundtable interview footage to explore and initiate a dialogue between feminists, queers, and transfolk about the way we construct personal and historical narratives. Careful attention is paid to the ways generation, race, class, and culture impact our understandings of gender.

against a trans narrative asks a series of provocative questions:
What does it mean to be trans?
Is there an idealized perception of trans-masculine identity?
What is the diversity of the trans-masculine experience?
Is there an "idealized" community narrative?

Certain to spark lively community dialogue, this powerfully emotional film appeals to anyone who has ever struggled to reconcile their identity with the communities they belong to.”

August 1, 2009

It is with deep sadness we announce that Gwen Ames passed away on Friday, July 24, 2009.  Gwen is survived by her husband, Greg Ames, her mother Gloria Congdon, sister Trina and brother Mike.  Gwen requested cremation with no memorial service, but her mother welcomes condolences from friends and relatives. 

Remembering Gwen – August 1, 2009 @ 6:00pm
Although Gwen did not want a memorial service, many people in the Milwaukee trans community and beyond have been deeply impacted by her death.  Many of us need a time to remember her and to connect with each other, showing our love and support to each other.  At 6:00pm on August 1, 2009, at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center, FORGE will host a Ritual of Re-Commitment which will honor Gwen’s life, encourage each of us to re-commit to life/living, and acknowledge and strengthen our connections to each other as a community.

We know there will be other opportunities to remember Gwen and celebrate her life.  Please join us whether you knew Gwen and Greg or not, to show solidarity and support, and strengthen the bonds within our community.

Donate to Gwen’s Memorial Fund
Our community is deeply saddened by Gwen’s death and our condolences go out to her husband, Greg Ames.  On top of this devastating loss for Greg and our community, funds are needed to carry out Gwen's wish to be cremated.

Please donate here: https://www.justgive.org/nonprofits/donate.jsp?ein=20-1795062  Select "dedicate my donation as a memorial" and type in "Gwen".   

[If you prefer to make a donation by check, you can send funds payable to FORGE with a note in the memo field to direct the funds to Gwen.  We will deliver all donations to Greg.]

July 10, 2009 (FRIDAY)

Trans on the Street: Survival Sex, Silicone, and Street Pharmacies

Maybe you think only MTFs sell sex to survive.  Maybe you believe silicone is only for those who cannot afford hormones or surgery.  Maybe you are under the assumption that people who have insurance would never buy hormones on the street, from friends or off the internet.

You might be surprised to learn how many people in our community – people of all ages, races, gender vectors, sexual orientations, economic levels, backgrounds, employment status’, and other demographic diversities – are finding ways to survive and create the body they want to live in.

Our discussion will not focus on “right” or “wrong” – but will delve into some of the reasons people take risks (calculated for some, unknown for others) and what, exactly, those risks are.  What are some of the reasons people make the choices they do?  How can we all make the most informed choices about our financial, emotional, physical, spiritual health?  How can we, as a community, understand and support each, even though we may make different decisions.

June 6, 2009

Pregnant Men, Lesbian Fathers, and Transgender Parenting

Thomas Beatie may believe he was the first FTM to give birth, but on this Saturday you’ll meet many FTMs who went before him!

On June 6, 2009, at 7:30pm, FORGE will screen the film transparent, a fascinating documentary by Chicagoan filmmaker Jules Rosskam about 19 FTMs who have given birth.  Focusing on their lives as parents, the film reveals “the diverse ways in which each person reconciles giving birth and being a biological mother with his masculine identity.  Traditional views of gender are further re-examined through the variety of genders the children use to conceive of their parents.  The first-person stories in transparent explain how changing genders is dealt with and impacts the relationships, if at all, within these families.”

It’s not necessary to be FTM and/or considering a pregnancy to find great value in this film.  All of us are affected by the changing definitions of parenthood and gender.  Come see how people at the very heart of these changes are blazing new paths the rest of us may want to consider.  (Want more?  See the transparent website at http://www.transparentthemovie.com/ )

May 2, 2009

The “Tranny Tax”

Unfortunately, just minutes before FORGE’s monthly social support group was to begin on Saturday, May 2, 2009, the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center had a medical incident which resulted in immediately closing the entire Center for the evening.

For those of you who did drive to the Center, you may have seen multiple ambulances and police cars, as well as Center staff and/or signs indicating that the Center was closed for the evening.

We are very sorry for the inconvenience this last minute cancellation caused attendees.  We know, too, that many of you drive in from long distances to attend FORGE monthly support meetings -- so we especially apologize for those of you who had the added expense and time of driving in from out of town.

The medical situation at the Center has been resolved and the Center is back open.  We anticipate no further problems in the future.  (The next social support meeting is on June 6, 2009.)

April 4, 2009

Staying Alive: Alternatives to Suicide

Depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions, as well as tough economic times, challenges with identity and social prejudice, can stimulate suicidal feelings.  This sensitive, facilitated time will address some of the reasons that lead people to feel suicidal or hopeless; amply discuss alternatives to suicidal behavior (and ideas about how to decrease suicidal feelings); and explain how to construct a safety plan (for yourself, or with a friend).  A hearty portion of time will be devoted to how we, as a community, respond to depression, suicide, and individuals who are struggling and questioning. 

March 7, 2009

Bulldaggers and Genderqueers:
A Cross-Generational Panel

Do you ever think about how gender identity, expression and gender roles have changed over time?  This event will focus on gender from a cross-generational perspective.  What was it like being a butch in the 1950s?  How is that different than being a boi today?  How did the drag queens and radical faeries who participated in the Stonewall or Compton Cafeteria riots effect social change, vs. the youth of today who daily challenge societal norms by proudly walking through the world?  We’ll review some broad historical concepts and explore current trends & language.  As you can always expect at FORGE events, we’ll have ample time to share stories and personal experiences, as well as compare and contrast how things are similar and different -- and, more importantly, how those experiences, similarities and differences help enrich our community.

February 27, 2009 (Friday)

7:00pm

Paris is Burning!

Celebrate Black History Month with FORGE and SHEBA. Free. Food. Film. Friendship.

Printable flyer! Please print and share with your friends!

February 7, 2009

The Art of Getting Laid

Do you want more sex in your life?  Want to figure out how to actually approach the person you’ve had your eye on?  Interested in exploring how to enhance your existing relationship’s sensual playfulness?   We’ll discuss a wide range of relationship possibilities, safe dating strategies, healthy intimate partner interactions, and safer sex negotiation.  We’ll also focus on the pros and cons of disclosure.  The evening will be packed with dynamic dialogue, and thought-provoking (and practical) techniques for attracting more of what you want in your erotic life.

January 3, 2009

Combating Horizontal Hostility

You may not know the term “horizontal hostility,” but you know what it describes: the “I’m better than you because...” hierarchies that trans people and SOFFAs sometimes set up: 

• Post-ops are “better” or “more real” than pre- or non-ops,
• FTMs have it easier than MTFs,
• Genderqueers are fence-sitters and aren’t “really” trans,
• The transphobia SOFFAs may experience Is nothing like the transphobia transgender people experience,
• And many, many more hierarchies. 

What’s going on here?  Don’t we have to deal with enough prejudice from outsiders without adding to it ourselves?  In this challenging interactive discussion we’ll identify the ways we discount each other, talk about why so many of us feel the need to add to these put-downs, and brainstorm how to shift the patterns so there’s more solidarity and less division within our diverse trans/SOFFA communities.

December 6, 2008

Wellness: It does a body good

More and more people are taking better care of their bodies, minds, and spirits. Wellness is more than just going to the doctor when sick. Many people are eating more consciously, exercising more frequently, using vitamins and supplements to enhance their nutrition, altering what they ingest (alcohol, tobacco, water) to maximize their body’s potential, as well as being more aware of environmental factors (second-hand smoke, pollution, sun exposure, pesticides used on food, purification of water). As people are taking a more active role in their health care, trans people are making more informed choices about how we treat our bodies – using no or low dose hormones, deciding to have no or fewer surgeries, taking proactive steps to minimize risks (e.g. using milk thistle, having complete hysterectomies, etc.).  We’ll be sure to cover critical issues like how binders may play a role in working out or swimming, navigating locker rooms, healthy eating on a budget, and being your own best advocate for your health and wellbeing.  Come share the steps you are taking to live a healthy, balanced, enjoyable life. 

November 14, 2008

Special event.

Dr. Meltzer! - Guest Speaker

6:30 - 8:00pm FTM Surgeries

Dr. Meltzer will be showing a PowerPoint presentation discussing current options for Gender Reassignment Surgery. He does Chest and Lower Surgery (including metoidioplasty and pedicle flap phalloplasty) and does ancillary body procedures as well.

8:15 - 9:45pm MTF Surgeries

Dr. Meltzer will be showing a PowerPoint Presentation regarding current options for Gender Reassignment Surgery, Facial Feminization and Body Contouring Procedures. He will leave time at the end for questions and answers.

About Dr. Meltzer

Dr. Toby Meltzer graduated from LSU Medical School in 1983 and is board certified in both General and Plastic Surgery. He is an active member of the American Society of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons. 

He started practicing at Oregon Health Sciences University in 1990 and began private practice in 1996 in Portland , Oregon . He moved Scottsdale , Arizona in 1993. He has privileges at Scottsdale Healthcare Osborn Campus at the Greenbaum Surgery Center and Scottsdale Healthcare Shea Campus.

Dr. Meltzer performs approximately 200 Genital Reconstruction Surgery (GRS) cases per year. He performs both MTF and FTM genital reconstruction surgery. He works with a team for FtM GRS which includes both a Urologist and an OB/Gyn. In addition, Dr. Meltzer performs surgery to feminize the face and body as well as standard cosmetic procedures.

November 11, 2008

6:30 - 8:30pm

(Special event)

Transgender Fun and Games (with SAGE-Milwaukee

Location: SAGE-Milwaukee Office
1845 North Farwell Ste. 220
Milwaukee, WI 53202

T was added to LGBT many years ago, but so many of us still struggle with what transgender really means, and who transgender people are. At this fun, interactive, participation-encouraged event, everyone will have the opportunity to explore transgender issues, ideas and identities in an open, gentle, exploratory (but not exploitive) way. The evening will be divided into to main parts:

1) T-Toss Trivia. This “no right answer” fast-paced, playful game will pose many different questions that will begin a dialogue about key transgender concepts, history, and terminology.

2) Stump the Chump. A diverse panel will field ANY question you may have about transgender issues. This is the time and place to (anonymously) bring your practical questions, as well as fulfill your curiosity about the “I shouldn’t ask that” questions.

November 1, 2008

Intimate Relationships:
Finding and Sustaining

Relationships can be tough for anyone! Trans people and partners may have an extra layer of both challenge and excitement in their relationships. Come and discuss (or listen) to an intimate conversation about finding and maintaining partner(s). Topics of discussion may include how to find partners, issues surrounding disclosure and/or coming out, sustaining relationships through transition, potential changes in sexual orientation, monogamy and polyamory, mixed orientation relationships, BDSM, bringing your partner home to meet your family, developing stronger relationships through effective communication and other skills/strategies, methods of resolving conflict within partnerships, identifying possible abuse within a relationship, and getting the most out of your relationships.

October 4, 2008

Dis/abilities

September 27 , 2008

9:30am - 5:00pm

Loving Through Trauma:

A Day of Connection and Healing for Lovers

In this unique, creative, and very practical workshop, trauma-informed facilitators will employ creative arts, movement, negotiated touch, partner and small-group discussions, communication exercises, and introspective techniques to give participants insights, tools, and skills they can use to promote deeper levels of understanding, compassion and healing in all of their relationships.

Pre-registration required. $120/dyad (couple).

September 6, 2008

Isms (Racism, ablism, sexism,
sizism, and more!)

August 2, 2008

Living Long Term

July 5, 2008

Tricks of the Trade

Does the concept of binding boggle your mind? Ever wonder how some pre- or non-op guys stand to pee? Do you ponder how to get a nice, but realistic, looking bulge in your pants? Maybe you are more interested in tips about how to successfully use a gendered locker room without causing a stir. Or how about how to stay cool in the summer and pass, even without multiple layers of clothes or a binder? Bring your favorite packing, binding, urinating devices to show and tell. This meeting will have a hands-on focus, offering suggestions, tips, techniques for the practicalities of binding, soft packing, hard packing, urinating, clothing styles, hair cuts, and more. Come share your knowledge and experience with others!

Guest speaker: Laura, the new owner of the Tool Shed (and partner of an FTM), will drop in with packies, dildos and harnesses. She’ll discuss important information about pthalates (nontoxic toys) and answer questions about both the products she brings, and about other items of interest that Tool Shed carries.

June 20, 2008

7:00pm

Odd Ones Out (film)

ODD ONES OUT documents four years in the courageous lives of three transgender teens, Naomi, David and Tot, as they transition into adulthood and face life-altering events. Family intolerance, abuse, homelessness, sex work, violence and harassment in their schools and community are only the backdrop for a dramatic story of acceptance and rejection, identity and change. Through candid verité footage and home video diaries, ODD ONES OUT is a unique and intimate look at the most tender time in the lives of these three young people as they struggle with the universal search for self and of being found. It’s a coming of age story about trying to fit in while fighting against society’s rigid boundaries. With Naomi, David and Tot, you will reconsider the definitions of male and female and then discard them as you grow closer to three teenagers who just want to grow up.

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June 7 & 8, 2008

FORGE @ Pridefest!!

June 7, 2008

CANCELED!!! Activism: What’s in it for you?

May 16, 2008

7:00 - 9:00pm

Never Be Unemployed Again: Self-Reliant Job Searching for Individuals Who Don’t Conform

Think you can't find work?  Jolie McKenna will show you you can!  Whether you need that "right now!" job or are building toward your dream job, McKenna shares proven techniques that have helped even the most unconventional job seekers hear "you're hired!"

Part 2 of 2

Printable flyer

May 3, 2008

Testosterone!
GUEST SPEAKER!
Dr. Steven Brown

We’ll explore the benefits of hormone replacement in the process of transitioning for FTMs. The unsupervised acquisition and use of HRT may be associated with serious risks. Health consequences, based upon a critical review of the medical literature and strategies to reduce hazards will be discussed. Topics include appropriate monitoring, measuring progress, developing realistic anatomic and behavioral expectations, and factoring risks such as blood clots, osteoporosis, liver disease, cancer, and diabetes into the decision-making process. There will be plenty of opportunity to share your experiences as we learn together.

Printable flyer

May 2, 2008

7:00 - 9:00pm

Never Be Unemployed Again: Self-Reliant Job Searching for Individuals Who Don’t Conform

Think you can't find work?  Jolie McKenna will show you you can!  Whether you need that "right now!" job or are building toward your dream job, McKenna shares proven techniques that have helped even the most unconventional job seekers hear "you're hired!"

Part 1 of 2

Printable flyer

April 5, 2008

Staying Sane and Alive:
Suicide and Mental Health

Depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, sleep disorders, bi-polar and other mental health conditions run rampant in our country and may be particularly high within the transgender and SOFFA community. Even though mental health conditions are so prevalent, there is often a high degree of stigma associated with these conditions, as well as a steep price to pay. Some gender therapists may deny letters for hormones and surgery if mental health conditions are not adequately managed or eliminated. We’ll talk about some of the challenges of living with both acute and chronic mental health conditions. We’ll also address ways in which we can all improve or maintain our good mental health through support networks, stress reduction techniques, knowing when to seek professional help, medication, diet and exercise, and other coping strategies.

March 1, 2008

Trans+ at Work

February 9, 2008

SPECIAL EVENT!

Sex Toys 101!

Printable Flyer

FREE! Sex Toys 101 Workshop @ A Woman's Touch

February 2, 2008

Sexuality, Negotiation, and
Staying Safe(r)

Printable meeting flyer

Attend this meeting to learn more about a free Sex Toy 101 workshop presented just for FORGE by A Woman’s Touch!

January 5, 2008

Masculinizing Chest Recontouring
GUEST SPEAKER!
Dr. Paul Steinwald

December 1, 2007

Family & Allies Potluck!

For Parents, Friends, Family, Partners, allies and Transpeople

The FORGE Family Potluck and discussion flips transgender-focused events on their head. We encourage family members (especially parents), friends, partners and allies to take the lead in inviting their transgender and gender-non-conforming loved ones to this event!

After sharing food, we’ll join together for conversation that will enhance the loving sense of connection we share with the people in our lives.

Please join us even if you come alone. We promise you’ll leave feeling more supported and connected to others.

** Please bring a dish to pass **

Printable flyer for the Family Potluck

Reverse Inclusion: A trans+/SOFFA organization is hosting an event that welcomes the broader LGBTQIA (and straight) community.

November 3, 2007

Third-wave and Trans-feminism

Many members of the FTM+/SOFFA community have been lesbian separatists and/or have a strong feminist background. How has our experiences with changing or transcending gender affected our worldviews and politics? How has a feminist history affected our own gender and sexual orientation choices? What do transfeminism and Third Wave feminism have to offer us, and what does the FTM+/SOFFA community have to offer traditional feminists?

October 6, 2007

Stealth Missiles or Out in this World

Are we out at work? To our families? To our neighbors? Being out can be liberating choice, or one that is wrought with fear and anxiety. Likewise, living stealth may feel most comfortable but also carries a constant fear of being outed. How do people make these choices? Can one choose “both”? What happens when you change your mind, or you find your fears were justified? How can our community better support both ends of the stealth/out continuum?

September 1, 2007

Whose Body Is It Anyway? Working with medical professionals and the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care

Are transgender people treated medically differently than non-transgender peers? Why do so many physicians and surgeons require a letter from a mental health provider before they will prescribe testosterone or surgically alter our bodies? (Do cisgender women who wish to have a breast reduction need a letter from a therapist? Do cisgender men who have low testosterone levels need a letter from a mental health provider stating they are sane?) Initially the Standards of Care were set up to protect both consumers and professionals. Are they still serving that role or do they only act as a CYA for providers? If we want the system to change, what steps can we take to move our community to a stronger, more empowered place?

August 4, 2007

Snip, poke, tuck: Hormones, Surgery and other body modification techniques

Hormones are an option that many trans+ people pursue.  We will discuss the choices people make to use or not use hormones.  Discussion will include various methods in which testosterone is available (and the pros and cons of each);  expected desired masculinization (vocal pitch lowering, body hair, facial hair, body shape changes, cessation of menstruation, etc.) and undesired side effects; routine health maintenance; as well as contra-indications of hormone use. Included in this discussion will be the impact on SOFFAs, including changes in their transpersons’ smell, emotions, body shape, and social presentation.

Surgery and other body modifications can be an important marker in some people’s lives. We encourage people to come with open minds and the willingness to share their experiences and, if comfortable, to share the results of their surgeries and other body modifications with the group. We also encourage those who are not interested in surgery to share their views and decisions. A discussion of surgical techniques, skill and personality of various surgeons, healing, desired outcome, stating intentions with a surgeon, after care, and financing will be addressed. We will also look at several non-surgical options which may yield similar or more satisfying -- and often lower risk -- alternatives to surgery.

July 7, 2007

Indigo is Not in the Grey Scale: Metrosexuals, Genderqueers, and Bois, oh my.

Gender can be viewed in many ways -- on a continuum, as a sphere, as a construct or in many other ways. The possibilities of gender expression and identity are limitless. July’s meeting will focus on non-traditional and/or emerging identities and gender expressions. What does it mean to be a femme FTM? A butch straight woman? A retrosexual in an increasingly politically correct world? Don’t know what a metrosexual is? Come to the meeting and find out!

June 2, 2007

Rites of Passage and Other Spiritual Quests

Everyone’s life is unique and peppered with significant events, changes, or important milestones. How do we mark those pieces of our lives? Do we want to quietly reflect or loudly celebrate with our friends and family(ies)? We may talk about naming rituals, post-surgical rites of passage, weddings or unions, family acceptance gatherings, spiritual retreats, or any number of meaningful life events and how we’ve chosen to capture them and fix them in our memories. If you have marked an event or time in your life with a ritual, rite of passage or spiritual ceremony, please bring photos or stories to share.

May 5, 2007

Sexuality, body image and relationships

Relationships can be tough for anyone! Trans people and partners may have an extra layer of both challenge and excitement in their relationships. Come and discuss (or listen) to an intimate conversation about finding partners, getting (more) comfortable with and in your body, sharing how you feel about your body, and how it looks or works sexually. We may delve into specific areas of sexuality, including: sexual orientation, self love and body acceptance, cruising and flirting, trans erotica, libido changes, mixed orientation relationships, SM as a tool for expanding and exploring gender, sex clubs and segregated environments, using “hardware” to enhance sexual relationships, safer sex techniques, and negotiating with a partner.

April 7, 2007

Conference recap / wind down / sharing

The first regular FORGE meeting after the FORGE Forward 2007 Conference and Intensives will be devoted to “debriefing.” The Conference is guaranteed to stir up lots of emotions, questions, and thoughts; come to this meeting to compare experiences and talk about what’s next for you as an individual and us as a community.

March 29 - April 1, 2007

FORGE Forward 2007 Conference

March 3, 2007

FILM (TBA) & Pre-conference community building

The trannies are coming, the trannies are coming! Wisconsin has never seen as many trans and SOFFA individuals in one place as are gathering in Milwaukee on March 29 – April 1, 2007. At this meeting, we’ll preview what will happen at the FORGE Forward 2007 Conference and Intensives, including showing one of the film festival DVDs. We will also discuss what each of us would like to get out of this unique opportunity, and help each other plan how to meet those personal goals.

February 10, 2007

* NOTE DATE CHANGE!

Body dysphoria vs. gender dysphoria

We’ve all heard of “gender dysphoria.” It generally means an emotional state characterized by discomfort, unhappiness, anxiety, depression or unease with our gender. “Dysphoria” can also be an obsession with things like appearance. But are we all, by definition, dysphoric? Can we distinguish between what is GENDER dysphoria and what is a more generalized BODY dysphoria? When does dysphoria cross the line into unrealistic fantasies? (For example, you are short and stocky, but dream of being tall and lanky.) What happens when your dysphoria doesn’t ease through a gender transition? Come to a challenging discussion where we try to sort through these intricately-entwined issues.

January 28, 2007

2:00pm

WHITE ELEPHANT MIX 'n' MINGLE

Time to play!  Re-gifting sometimes has a bad name, but FORGE and Project Q will make it fun!  Dig out that horrible gift vase your neighbor gave you, or the plaid sweater vest from your grandparents and bring it (unwrapped) to the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center at 315 W. Court Street on Sunday, January 28.  Well put all those mismatched gifts on a table, then give people turns to choose something more to their tastes to take home in its place.
 
And while thats going on, well be mixing and mingling and enjoying a specially-designed-for-us quiz show.  How much does our community know about trans/SOFFA  issues?  How much do YOU know?  Come find out!
 
Besides your unwrapped gift, admission to this event is a $5 donation.  All of the proceeds will help Project Q members attend the FORGE Forward 2007 Conference and Intensives.

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January 25, 2007

7:00pm

SHORTBUS

Join us at the UWM Union Theatre, 2nd level UWM Student Union, 2200 E Kenwood Blvd at 7:00 p.m. to watch John Cameron Mitchells (director of Hedwig and the Angry Inch) acclaimed new film, Shortbus.  This is a ground-breaking, taboo-busting, sexually explicit and fun story that lovingly weaves in people of all genders and sexual orientations.  If you imagine a world where acceptance is the norm, come luxuriate in seeing your vision on the big screen.  All of your $10 donation goes directly into the scholarship fund for the FORGE Forward 2007 Conference and Intensives.

Event co-sponsored by the Milwaukee LGBT Film and Video Festival.

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January 6, 2007

Taking care of our mental health

Depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, sleep disorders, bi-polar and other mental health conditions run rampant in our country and may be particularly high within the transgender and SOFFA community. Even though mental health conditions are so prevalent, there is often a high degree of stigma associated with these conditions, as well as a steep price to pay. Some gender therapists may deny letters for hormones and surgery if mental health conditions are not adequately managed or eliminated. We’ll talk about some of the challenges of living with both acute and chronic mental health conditions. We’ll also address ways in which we can all improve or maintain our good mental health through support networks, stress reduction techniques, knowing when to seek professional help, medication, diet and exercise, and other coping strategies.

December 2, 2006

Sexuality, Negotiation and Staying Safe

Guests from ARCW will help facilitate this fun, informative discussion.

• Jeopardy: "I’ll take ‘Other Words For Genitals’, Alex?"
• Safer Sex Continuum: How Safe Is It?
• Erotic film clips: Can you spy what’s safe? What’s not?
• Let's get it on: Latex, lube, and language.
• Anonymous Q & A

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July 1, 2006

Fitness and wellness

More and more people are taking better care of their body, mind, and spirit. Wellness is more than merely going to the doctor when ill. Many people are eating more consciously, exercising, using vitamins and supplements, altering what they ingest (alcohol, tobacco, water), as well as being more aware of environmental factors (second-hand smoke, pollution, sun exposure, pesticides used on food, purification of water). As people are taking a more active role in their health care, trans people are making more informed choices about how they treat their body -- no or low dose hormones, decisions to have no or fewer surgeries, taking proactive steps to minimize risks (e.g. using milk thistle, having complete hysterectomies, etc.). Come discuss the steps you are taking and learn about additional options.

June 3, 2006

Rights of passage

Creating rituals or rites of passage can be a transformative component of being more present in your body and life. Using rituals to help define masculinity or other aspects of Self can be empowering and reinforcing, as well as allowing significant people in our lives the joy of sharing in our process. While not everyone codifies milestones with rituals or rites of passage, we all engage in some form of marking as we pass through various benchmarks in our lives.

Relationships, body image and sexuality

Relationships can be tough for anyone! Trans people and partners may have an extra layer of both challenge and excitement in their relationships. Come and discuss (or listen) to an intimate conversation about finding partners, getting (more) comfortable with and in your body, sharing how you feel about your body, and how it looks or works sexually. We may delve into specific areas of sexuality, including: sexual orientation, self love and body acceptance, cruising and flirting, trans erotica, changes in libido, mixed orientation relationships, SM as a tool for expanding and exploring gender, sex clubs and segregated environments, using “hardware” to enhance sexual relationships, and safer sex techniques, and negotiating with a partner.

FORGE Nite-Out

What? burgers (cow, veg, bird), fries, frozen custard, conversation

Where: Bella's Fat Cat, Bay View
2737 S. Kinnickinnic Ave

Time: 7:00pm

Tranny Roadshow

FORGE and the Milwaukee Gay Arts Center welcome the Tranny Roadshow to the Milwaukee Gay Arts Center. This one-time multi-media performance art extravaganza is not to be missed! Performers include AJ Bryce, Dylan Scholinski, Jamez Terry, Kelly Shortandqueer, Tona Brown, Seeley Quest, and Imani Henry. Tickets are only $10 and are available directly through FORGE, at the door, or online at www.uncommontheatre.net. Get your tickets early and join us for an unforgettable event!

10:00 PM @
The Milwaukee Gay Arts Center
703 S. Second Street
Milwaukee, WI

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As part of a statewide planning project to address the needs of LGBT adults in Wisconsin, Diverse & Resilient is funded by the University of Wisconsin Medical School to conduct focus groups, review relevant health literature and conduct a survey. Please take a few minutes to add your voice to the information and knowledge needed to address the health concerns of LGBT people here in the state of Wisconsin. Results of the survey will be posted on the Diverse & Resilient web site in September. Any questions please contact Brenda Coley Director of Adult Services at 414-390-0440.

Attend a focus group on June 29 -- 7:00 - 8:30pm -- to share your experiences with specific issues transgender people face in accessing healthcare. Join us at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center -- 315 Court Street -- for an interactive discussion that will benefit all Transgender (and LGB) folks in Wisconsin, by identifying needs and generating ways of correcting problem areas.

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For more information about FORGE (meetings, basic information, resources), please contact FORGE, PO Box 1272, Milwaukee, WI 53201. Phone: 414-278-6031. Email: info@forge-forward.org.